You will only have a happy relationship if either you both believe in the Mormon Church, or both do not believe. I would never convert. Learned by me in time and tears. Reading your blog has helped, especially in seeing that these lonely feelings are normal. I don't think I'm eligible to advice, but I would say be prepared to be independent and make lots of friends. Does she understand that for a long-term relationship to succeed that the partners must treat each other as equals. I knew that I couldn't possibly be alone. That said, there are also a lot of pricks inside the church, who fully deserve membership. I'm glad you both have found a way to get past the incredible forces that are working against you. Never ask vague questions and give her definite options instead.
Your relationship with your family will be healed, and so will you. Maybe there is wisdom behind some of the peculiarities. However, for me, there have been some perks too. Of course we are talking abt kids and marriage all the time. One small thing to add here. Anyone with experience dating a doctor or another insanely busy person. Ask her right out if she is at all interested in leaving TSCC. Wow, so nice to know others feel just like me. Read on to know the dating rules of Mormons, and some tips on how you can make it work with this special guy or girl.
Do not make anything risque public. I hope I can forgive it someday, but even still my anger is red hot. We raised 2 wonderful children who are now happy and successful adults. A lot of what you say about Support was what I expected to find in residency. I think I handle the lonliness a little better than most because I was an only child and like having my alone time. Mormon's view marriages outside the temple to be counterfeit and you can't get into the temple without converting to the religion.
Don't tiptoe around the issue. The misogyny is deep in the Mormon church. Honestly, the thing that makes me the craziest is the missionaries. I wanted very much to make it work with us, and was willing to compromise in areas that I normally wouldn't. I also remember my father a stake president telling me the night before I got married that every single couple he had counseled through marriage struggles were not reading their scriptures or praying together every night. But daughter and I agreed that this teaching was unhealthy. By the end of the first date with my husband I knew I wanted him to be a part of my life. I'm surprised this thread is still getting replies. But on saying that I do empathise with you all and a Doctor is very challenging and I know my Dad was always working and it is a demanding job for their spouses to live their lives but hey nothing at the top is ever easy.
